The consent explanation for boys!!

There was an episode of Grey's Anatomy that has really stuck with me over time and I re-watched this episode recently with the hubby and as soon as I saw this scene again I said this THIS is exactly how I will explain to Logan about consent.

I would never have thought it was a conversation that would be needed but the more I think about it, its an important chat to have with children.

The chat used the analogy of a sports game, where both teams are playing until someone calls time-out, in which case both teams immediately stop. It was an easy way for Tuck to begin to understand how to listen for a girl's consent and how to read her behavior as he starts to date. "No matter how much fun they're having, everything stops," Ben said. "That's consent."

Ben explained to Tuck, "You pay attention to the girl you're with. You need to care about her feelings and her joy at least as much as you care about your own. And she gets to change her mind at any time. If she says stop or if she stops having fun. You just plain stop. Time-out. Game over."

Isn't that such a clear way to explain this scenario to young boys when the time is right and I think the part that is important is even if it has started, they are entitled to change their mind and if they do you stop.

I also think a chat is also needed with young girls that they don't feel pressured that the same scenario works with them, if they decide after giving consent that they change their mind then that is ok and they are entitled to change their mind and should not feel in any way shape or form that it is too late. It is never too late to decide to stop should they need to.

Let's get the information out their at the beginning, it could help both sides some day!!